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The Virgin Queen 4 years ago on 01/24/12
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Okay, spoke to his PT today and when she does her 6 month assessment in February she's going to make it known we would like a teacher to help him out. She said that no ST she knows would pick Jake up at this age, but she does want him to receive assistance so she's going to sort out a teacher for him. She might be his PT, but she seems to be the one who is covering his 'case' so to speak. She organised the OT for us and receives the records from the OT on how he is doing etc.

Now we just need to get his insurance coverage back (Medicaid cancelled it because we didn't receive a renewal package & had no idea we needed to renew it after <5 months of coverage). Once that's back on he's getting braces for his feet and he's getting a special walker to help him stand and (hopefully) walk in too! Apparently it'd cost us thousands without insurance so we can't do that right now.
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The Virgin Queen 4 years ago on 01/24/12
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I'm pretty shitty with insurance as I've never had to worry about it in England. I just assumed that once you were insured you wouldn't become uninsured unless you missed a payment or whatever. We got ZERO warning that they wanted us to send in some renewal package and we never even received it. So they just cancelled it without notifying us. We only knew because we went to an appt with his pedi and they told us it was denied. So now we're just playing the waiting game again. Sigh.
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Mac 4 years ago on 01/25/12
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Sky,

I'm on a pregnancy and parenting forum at www.babygaga.com. There are a bunch of girls on there that can point you to the right resources for more info.
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Scarlett 4 years ago on 02/11/12
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Hey moms and dads. Any viable tips for earache relief for the wee one? Seens been taking children aspirin, we put a couple drops of warmed olive oil in there. Anything else that could help her out?
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Bad Wolf 4 years ago on 02/11/12
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I used to get chronic ear infections as a kid, Scarlett. There is an Orange flavored kids Motrin liquid medicine for ear infections and aches that works really well.
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Kirei the Klown 4 years ago on 02/22/12
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What can I do about baby boredom?

Baby Lucia is about 9 months old now, and she's getting alot more interested in things. However, she still does not crawl or walk, and has a tendency to tip over backwards when sitting (and Jeebus help us if she isn't on something soft enough when she does that). So, she's still highly dependent on adults around her for amusement and movement, which isn't really a problem most of the time.

However, both myself and Lu's dad are having trouble keeping her entertained and also keeping ourselves from being overwhelmed by her needs and bored out of our minds simultaneously. She has an Exersaucer, which is a great place for her to hang out, but of course she gets tired of that too after a while, and we worry that we aren't stimulating her brain enough by plunking her in there too much everyday. We have also developed the bad habit of letting her watch TV (usually just Dinosaur Train and Sesame Street in the mornings), which studies have shown to have negative effects on brain development.

BUT OH MY GOD WHAT ELSE DO WE DO WITH HER??? I do my best to play games with Lucia while I have the news or the radio on, just for information and sound to keep the oppressive silence at bay. My husband does outings with her during the week to walk around the mall (or in fairer weather, around the neighborhood), and we go to an occasional parents' group meetup (which he never really enjoys because it's all mothers and he's really shy and doesn't talk to them much). The rest of the time it seems like we are constantly trying to balance the daily chores with playing with her so that she will grow up fit and intelligent, and it is so, SO hard to avoid the damn television.

Please heeeeeeeeeelp.
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Boudicca 4 years ago on 02/22/12
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First, do not panic. It can be overwhelming thinking you have to be stimulating higher brain function every second that she's awake. Babies love stimulation, but you can't do everything perfectly and need to cut yourself some slack.

If you're anti-tv, I don't think a couple of shows is going to harm her. It will cause you more harm worrying that you're using the tv as a babysitter than any harm it will do her. I had two kids and we watched tv with them and let them watch it and they both are super smart and had no issues with development. I am absolutely not trying to talk you into letting her watch tv all the time if that is something you are against. Just letting you know that there is a big difference between watching tv with your child, singing the songs, pointing things out and using it as a tool than just plopping them down in front of it and never speaking to them at all.

We used a baby swing, a walker, a playpen, etc. for both our kids. Some people view it as dumping the baby in there but it is possible to interact and give them a safe place to sit without you having to hold them.

I guess the thing that sticks out to me is that you are doing a great job and it's normal to be worried that you aren't doing enough. Babies are a lot of work all day long and it can get to you, especially worrying that you could be doing more.

Anyway, I don't know that any of that helped at all, but hopefully some of the younger moms with little ones will be able to offer more advice!
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Kirei the Klown 4 years ago on 02/24/12
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Thanks - that does help soothe my worrying.
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Lord_BullGod 4 years ago on 03/12/12
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http://...huffingtonpost.com/...m-judgments_b_1319775.html

Good read
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Lindze 4 years ago on 03/13/12
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Lord_BullGod said:
...huffingtonpost.com/...m-judgments_b_1319775.html

Good read


thats a fucking awesome article. I am so sick of people without children who think they know better than I or who are rude to me and my kid. thanks Serge!
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Lord_BullGod 4 years ago on 03/14/12
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It completely goes with my life philosophy. I have no knowledge of the ecstasy and agony of parenting; I'll never judge parents because I'm watching my best friend and brother raise a kid. Damn, that shit is painful! I'll never find a reason to forgive him or pardon him, because I know that he needs it if he wants 10 damn minutes to himself and his wife if it means putting the kid in front of a TV playing trains pulling into stations. Then I crack jokes.

Then I find a reason to cringe at single fuckers making comments about parents who leash their kids. KIDS ARE ANIMALS. I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT. LITTLE MONSTERS, WHY YOU SO CUTE AND MONSTROUS
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A Study in Pink 4 years ago on 03/14/12
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I have nothing to add to this thread except that I appreciate its existence, because parenting conversations are ones which I am generally left completely out of, and so it's really interesting to see these topics discussed with candor by actual parents around my age.

Carry on.
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fukkake 4 years ago on 03/14/12
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Not that I have kids, but I am generally curious how you amazing parents deal with tanrtums? (My Aunt's kids are insufferable and when I watch them I kind of feel like putting them in a kiddie slingshot and blasting them across Long Island...halp?)
 
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Hunky Dory 4 years ago on 03/14/12
I always wanted to do the hold them till they pipe-down. Works well enough with the dog at least (not to compare the two, cause they ARE different).

http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/holding_therapy.html

Seems to go both ways from what I've been told.
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Scarlett 4 years ago on 03/14/12
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Ew, I could never do that. Physical force is just not for me, seems too violent. Something I'm hypersensitive about because of my parents.

When River is throwing a fit, I let her throw a fit in time-out. Even if I have to pick her up and put her there myself. It also lets me walk away and take a breather if she's being especially difficult. Honestly, what works for her and I, is just not acknowledging her fits. She can scream and yell and cry. But if I don't really acknowledge what she's doing, or I just talk to her like she's not screaming, she eventually gets, well, bored and then apologetic when she comes out of time-out.


NOTE: Teaching your kid not to move from time out is something really easy, but a different topic.
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Lindze 4 years ago on 03/14/12
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fukkake said:

Not that I have kids, but I am generally curious how you amazing parents deal with tanrtums? (My Aunt's kids are insufferable and when I watch them I kind of feel like putting them in a kiddie slingshot and blasting them across Long Island...halp...


you can do punishments like time outs and spankings, but honestly, when they reach that fever pitch, the best thing to do is try to ride it out and let things calm down, maybe remove them from the issue altogether. there's a reason why you see so many moms ignoring their kids when they're freaking out. i think they're just trying to not add to the craziness.
granted, I am super lucky and my kid rarely throws tantrums, and super rarely in public, and usually when she does I drop everything to focus on her and tell her to chill or we're leaving. usually it works, luckily. I feel SO BAD for people with kids who are higher strung.
its why i try not to judge other people with tantrum kids. I know I wouldn't be able to handle that shit (a slingshot would sound pretty awesome at that point) so who am I to say something about it?
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Major Tom 4 years ago on 03/14/12
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If I was 5 years old, I would definitely take a slingshot ride. That's like a reward, not a punishment!
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Madam GMILF 4 years ago on 03/16/12
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I was lucky and my kids seldom threw tantrums (if they did it was because of being over-tired or sick, generally), but what worked at home was if I just sat down next to them, and started making higher-pitched crying/whining noises louder than their tantrum. Usually shocked them out of it. Kind of like "waaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAAAHHHHHH I caaaaaan whiiiiiiinnnnnnne betterrrrrr thaaaaan youuuuuuuuu!"

Never had to do this for more than 2 or 3 minutes - granted, it's a hell of a caterwauling and helps to have earplugs.

Or sometimes any different, distracting sound - doesn't usually work past the age of 3 though.
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fukkake 4 years ago on 03/17/12
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Nicholas, who is at his terrible 2 stage, has terrible fits where he will scream and bang his head on the ground repetitively. The word no, only means something when he is with me or Mom because once he bit me pretty hard (got a nasty bruise) and we put him in my room, no TV, no snacks, let him scream until he was done, washed him up, and then put him to bed. Aunt Gina obviously does no follow through with punishments.

I guess ignoring the tantrum or trying to find out why they are upset is a good way to deal?

Usually I will let them have the tantrum or if we are in a store, even though it is a HUGE inconvenience to me and if I am able, I will pull him out and sit in the car until he is done. Most of the time we just go home and I will put him in a room until he is ready to come out and say sorry.

Did any of your kids bang their heads? I mean, that can't be good right?
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Madam GMILF 4 years ago on 03/17/12
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The head banging isn't too uncommon, but that's a little scary - might want to check first if the poor little guy is teething or has an ear infection. Pick him up so he can't hurt himself or at least make sure there isn't anything hard he can damage himself on.

Just found this: http://www.babycenter.com/0_head-banging_11554.bc

And maybe mention to your sister that you are concerned and suggest she take him to a pediatrician just to rule out something causing him pain.

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